As I browse through my LinkedIn feed, I realize that if I am to follow the advice of the experts to be successful in life and business, I would have no free time for the next decade or more!
The question I, and I guess many others are struggling with, is; “Is it possible to make it in business without losing in life?”
I recently completed reading a book by Rob Parsons, “The Heart of successand I’m glad to let you know the answer is yes, but it isn’t going to be easy. You will need to start off by defining your values, know your priorities and manage the tension that will arise as you go against the grain of living the mediocre life of pursuing what the world has defined as “success”.
These 7 principles I believe will help you evaluate your current situation and align yourself and those around you for a life worth living.
Principle 1: Don’t settle for being money rich – time poor
We all have 24 hours in a day, nothing you do or say can change this.
From a career perspective, there will be many ‘once in a lifetime’ opportunities. Many business professionals are chasing advancement opportunities at the expense of relationships.
Principle 2: Believe the job that you do makes a difference
What is the purpose of what you are doing daily?
Once you have found your purpose, you will be able to do work that matters. No job or task in our life is insignificant, if we do it with passion and believe that it has the power to change us and those around us. If you are constructing a bridge, you are connecting communities, you are saving lives of pedestrians. What are you doing today is making a difference in the world. If you don’t know your purpose, know it’s there and make it your goal to search for it.
Principle 3: Play to your strengths – find your Factor X
“Your talent is God’s gift to you. What you do with it is your gift back to God.” -Leo Buscaglia-
Our Creator has all created us to be unique. You have been given talents and gifts; how are you using them? Ask the trusted and loving individuals in your life what they think you are good at and take time to develop and grow in those areas.
Principle 4: Believe in the power of dreams
If you had unlimited resources and after having given to charities all that you wanted to give, what would you do with your remaining resources? Now, how can you find a way to realize it? What is the dream you have buried because it seems too big or scary?
Principle 5: Put your family before your career
I know a CEO of a company that implements the “hurry home” principle. He encourages staff to leave the office on time and go home to the ones that are waiting for him, who love him and want to spend time with him.
As I’m preparing to be a first-time dad, I know this won’t be easy to do. I also know that we are inclined to prioritize work above family as work results can be seen in the short term. Investing in the family is long term; one day when you are old and grey you will regret the times that you sacrificed on behalf of your wife and kids, so don’t do it!
If you are at work – don’t mess around; work hard so that you don’t have to sacrifice time with your family.
Principle 6: Keep the common touch
“Nearly all men can stand adversity, but if you want to test a man’s character, give him power” -Abraham Lincoln-
If you want to see a man’s character give him power. You see many executives who from humble upbringings developed into arrogant, self-centred individuals.
Are you too good to connect with some individuals in your company? Make an effort to connect with people at all levels of your company.
“They may forget what you said — but they will never forget how you made them feel.” -Carl W. Buehner-
Principle 7: Don’t settle for success: Make a difference – strive for significance
What is the legacy you are leaving? What will you be remembered for when you are no longer here? If you strive to live out principles 1-6 I’m sure you will leave a great legacy.
If your focus is on others and making a difference you will come to know what Einstein experienced when he penned; “Only a life lived for others is a life worthwhile”.
Sources: Rob Parsons – The Heart of success